Wednesday, October 16, 2013

I Want My Blog To Do Big Things

Today I'm going to write about something that I feel a lot of bloggers tend to try and hide from because of the fear that someone will judge them for just coming right out and saying it.

Plain and simple, I want my blog to do big things.
I want to grow, I want to succeed, I want to be a household name in the blog world

Now, I want to preface this by saying that I didn't start this blog with any of those aspirations, and I mean that with every fiber of my being. Quite honestly, I didn't even know there was a possibility for blogs to find success and, really, my expectations have been far, far exceeded already. Granted, I suppose it's not really difficult for zero expectations to be exceeded, but I think you can catch my drift on where I was going with that. What I mean is that once I saw the possibilities of where doing something I was already so passionate about could take me, the motivation to strive to grow and succeed took over and I realized I was ready to take this unicorn by the horn.

Really though, a lot my energy, thoughts, and passion go into this blog and one of the main reasons behind that is because I'm able to feed off of amazing readers, comments, tweets, unicorn haters, etc., etc. on a daily basis. In addition to all of that, much like working out and seeing yourself lose weight, it's nice to be able to watch your blog grow as a result of the energy you exert into it.

The honest truth behind all of this energy, and these thoughts, and this passion, is that it's not easy. Some weeks I would rather watch the same episode of Toddlers in Tiaras twenty times over, while Glitzy the pig squeals non-stop in my ear, before coming to this blog and writing in the big, white, empty box that awaits me 5 mornings a week. Then there are the days where I just have absolutely nothing to say, or if I do I feel it isn't good enough, and those are the days I get down on myself and feel like I am failing at something I love doing so much. All writers experience that from time to time though, it's just the nature of the beast, I believe.

I like to think it's okay to want all of these things and that it's okay to want to take that next step into growing your blog. I mean, there wouldn't be eleventy thousand books on how to grow and monetize your blog if it wasn't something that the majority of us wanted, right?

It's okay to want your blog to be successful. 

And I don't think that's something we should feel the need to hide from admitting. Most of us who have been knee deep in blogging for at least 6 months can't deny that we sit here watching our stats and numbers, stalking our inboxes for comments, pimping our posts, networking with others, and on and on and on. They're are all stepping stones we have to plot in order to be that household name we strive to be, I feel. We have to fight for the goals and the victories, whether they're as small as making it through 5 posts a week or as big as being published in a large publication, but it's a really fun fight because it's a fight of passion.

Though I may have started doing this with zero of the intentions I mentioned up at the beginning of this post, they've managed to form over the course of the year and however many months I've been running this blog and now I'm invested. And I mean invested in the best way possible because, without this blog, I'm 112% confident I wouldn't be in the place I love so much about life right now. I've found my voice and, most of all, myself through this blog and that right there fuels my fire to continue trying to grow and make it as successful as I'm humanly capable of.


  1. October 16, 2013 at 11:39 AM

    #realtalk you already are madly successful (in my opinion) but there's nothing wrong with wanting your blog to do big things. I want that too! Let's be real, what blogger doesn't?

  2. October 16, 2013 at 11:40 AM

    Loved reading this! Though I've had my blog for a year, I only began "seriously" blogging about 2 months ago -- and up until that point I didn't realize how popular blogs can be. (I remember watching an episode of the Bachelor a few years ago and seeing the job title "blogger" under one of the girl's and thinking, "Is this real?" -- but now I'm realizing what a cool job that is!)

    Thanks for this post! Definitely needed.
    xo, Zelle
    A Southern Style

  3. October 16, 2013 at 11:43 AM

    You're right...there shouldn't be any shame in admitting that we want someting besides the satisfaction of writing from blogging. Succeeding in the blog world is supposed to be fun, and I think many bloggers like to turn striving to build an audience into a negative. That shouldn't be the case!

    I read your blog daily, and I think this is the first time I've ever commented, so I just wanted to say thanks for the laughs you provide throughout the week. You're definitely doing something with your blog, and that's pretty cool.

    Also, love that you're a 'Nole. Fellow FSU alum here! Have a great week! :)


  4. October 16, 2013 at 11:45 AM

    Wow, totally just read this at the right time. I am just starting back in the blog game after taking pretty much the whole summer off and going through some personal hardships. But, I am back on the blogging-unicorn wagon and reading that just made me realize that I can still do this. Starting from the bottom once again, but you know, Drake says he gets somewhere after being at the bottom, so I guess I'll believe him.

    - Marissa @ Glitz & Giggles

  5. October 16, 2013 at 11:48 AM

    Great Post and sending support your way! Your blog always makes me laugh and your personality really shines through in your writing. Love from Texas-Megan

  6. October 16, 2013 at 11:49 AM

    Love this! I agree, I think we would all be lying if we said we didn't want our blogs to grow in one way or another. Like you there are days that I do NOT want to come write a blog or I feel what I do want to say, no one will comment on or care about. Great post!!

  7. October 16, 2013 at 11:51 AM

    This is a great post. I've adjusted my expectations and my goals for my blog, but this reminded me - I started blogging to reach a new area of the world for my writing. There's nothing wrong with trying to reach your goals!

  8. October 16, 2013 at 11:57 AM

    This is a great post, and to a little blogger like me, your blog IS a big deal. I love your honesty and sense of humor, and really look forward to seeing what you have come up with in your latest posts! PS: Unicorns can absolutely fly. They are magical. Why the hell not??

  9. October 16, 2013 at 11:57 AM

    Great post girl.

  10. October 16, 2013 at 12:05 PM

    This post is amazing. I am no where near successful, but I do think it's ok to toot your own horn every once in a while. Because we are all worthy of that.

    Just please please please don't go and shut down on me on day out of the blue. You are one of my daily reads and if you leave, I will be very very sad!

  11. October 16, 2013 at 12:09 PM

    I don't know what you're talking about. I don't want anyone to read my blog.

    Please never change.

  12. October 16, 2013 at 12:21 PM

    Great post!! I am little and I want to be BIG... aww hell I'll say it... cause all us ladies know bigger is better!

  13. October 16, 2013 at 12:50 PM

    I like blogging, and I love reading blogs - but I don't know what being a successful blogger looks like. Making money? Being known? Being read?

    So, I just write my little blog for my family, and don't really think much further ahead than tomorrow.

  14. October 16, 2013 at 12:50 PM

    Go big or go home right?
    And what's a blog without a unicorn hater fuck face or two.
    Oops, I don't think that was very lady like. Shit.
    God damn it. Okay, I'm stopping before I look like that girl.
    Also, Erin totally okay'd me crashing your next shindig shit show.
    See you soonsies.

    xo fal •

  15. October 16, 2013 at 12:51 PM

    I absolutely LOVE this post. I think that you are SO right...a lot of us won't admit it but most of us want it. We want our blogs to be successful and well read! I know I do! It's something I've been thinking about A LOT lately and I really want to put the time and energy into making my blog a big one! Thanks for an honest & encouraging post! PS- I was planning things that I want to do to grow my blog the other day and appearing back on your sidebar is high up on that list!

  16. October 16, 2013 at 12:51 PM

    I struggle with this... a lot. I feel like I'm not sure where I belong and I don't know what makes me successful either... but I guess I'll just keep on keeping on and if anything, I've met amazing friends along the way. Friends that are going to take me out as soon as I get to GA and pop this kid out ;) xo

  17. October 16, 2013 at 12:57 PM

    You are a household name to me! Don't change ever!

  18. October 16, 2013 at 1:21 PM

    Oh shiza, I always get excited when I spy a serious Whit post! But I did really enjoy reading this - I feel like you just said (wrote) out loud (on paper... screen...) what almost every blogger thinks in their mind when they first start seeing interaction on their own blogs. For me, because I know that I don't have the capability at the moment of maintaining a "big blog," I've had to consciously keep my expectations/hopes on the blogging success front down. I know that I won't have time to work with sponsors on my blog, and to write a quality post every day, and to go out and take stunning pictures when I'm running on three hours of sleep during midterm week. So, I don't do those and I don't expect the same results as someone who does have the time and ability at the moment to do so. For the time being, because I know that my time and resources are so limited, I try to keep my blog on a scale that's realistic - a creative outlet for me to document my adventures, a source for my friends/family to see what I'm up to, to meet some great chicks on the web, etc. But I do hope that with time, I'll get more energy, money, etc. to invest in blogging - because really, I love it so, so much!

    Whoa... rambles!

  19. October 16, 2013 at 1:24 PM

    You're a household name to me. My mom just texted me saying she read your unicorn post and asked why people don't have more time on their hands. Referring to unicorn hater.

  20. October 16, 2013 at 1:28 PM

    This is so true! I started my blog as an outlet for myself and as it grew I got excited! Once I learned what a blog could do, I wanted more for my blog. That's not wrong. I feel like not wanting your blog to do well is wrong...and actually kind of sick. Thank you so much for sharing!

  21. October 16, 2013 at 1:28 PM

    Thank you for saying what we all think about our own little blogs. The only person I ever admit this to is my husband, but you're right, it's nothing to be ashamed about. I want me blog to do well, and I don't care who knows it! :)

  22. October 16, 2013 at 1:47 PM

    I'm glad you said it. I think everyone should feel comfortable and proud enough to admit this. I would love to succeed as a blogger. If I don't, there are no hard feelings towards it. It would just be nice to be "famous" and successful for something I love. If actors get to do it, so do we.

  23. October 16, 2013 at 2:21 PM

    I think about a month ago I wrote a post very much like this, entitled "I want to be a blogger". I definitely think it's okay to come out and say the goals you're working towards--it helps you readers know what your intentions are and it helps you define and stand by those intentions!

  24. October 16, 2013 at 2:25 PM

    Wonderful post! And you're already super successful in my eyes! If my blog could have half as many followers as you do, I'd be thrilled! And I hear ya on your blog helping you. It's amazing what blogging can do for a person.

    Amanda -

  25. October 16, 2013 at 2:29 PM

    I love this blog so much! I seriously look forward to reading it every day! You & Erin have my favorite blogs ever!


  26. October 16, 2013 at 2:34 PM

    I feel like I could have written this myself. My problem is that I work on a computer all day and I'm married and me being on the computer when I get home after work, among other things that I do or have to do, my hubby feels neglected by the online world. I don't network nearly enough, I find it almost a chore. At the same time, I could give two fucks if anyone reads my blog because at the end of the day it's just for me to use as an outlet and if there are others out there that read it, so be it. Enjoy, whatever. But my life isn't that exciting, I don't think. I just post a ton of pictures of animals because I dog walk/pet sit in my spare time. :) I also think life is too flippin short to live behind your computer screen all the time, sometimes living life is more important than documenting it and watching it pass you by behind the lens.

    Anyways, I'm not sure how I initially stumbled onto your blog many, many moons ago but I think you're hilarious and it's so nice to see you happy :)


  27. October 16, 2013 at 2:38 PM

    WOW playing, unicorn haters. They just don't know. It's crazy though.. you can mention "Whit" on someone's blog or IG and they know who you are talking about. Loving your "serious" post here!

  28. October 16, 2013 at 2:44 PM

    To me you are already a house hold name..when i first started blogging your site was one of the first i discovered..and im glad you wrote this i was recently told by someone that i was crazy for wanting more out of my blog..but you are right there are tons of peopleand its nothing to be ashamed of.

  29. October 16, 2013 at 2:49 PM

    Amen. I feel like I could have written every word of this ... but like you said, I'm too afraid. My numb ass is the first to admit that I want big things for my blog. What's great is that all of your posts are authentic, most funny, and that's what people want to come back to read. You're already a favorite of mine and many others, so keep doing your thing :)

  30. October 16, 2013 at 3:01 PM

    Preach!!!! And I think you are clearly in the right direction. I admire you, on the reals, for all the work, passion, and personality you put into your blog! So when your famous and need a publicist (I'm a PR major), or someone to your bitch work (sort of like a minion)..let me know!!! :)

  31. October 16, 2013 at 3:02 PM

    You go, Glen Coco :)

  32. October 16, 2013 at 3:33 PM

    I totally agree with this whole post and I love the way you've put this! I feel like there is a lot of shaming out there against people who strive for big and/or successful blogs which I just don't understand. Who would shun the opportunity to have their hobby become successful or even potentially a career? Nobody.

    I really needed to read this today, I've read a few posts with different points of view but it's really helped me shift my focus and get myself together. I was on my way to a serious melt down I think!

    Kate | Diaries of a Essex Girl

  33. October 16, 2013 at 3:48 PM

    there isn't anything wrong with wanting big things for your blog! a blog is like my other job; i work hard to post stuff up, to connect with my readers and make connections with other blogs out there too. seriously, i would LOVE to get paid for my site but i doubt anyone would pay for my word vomit.

    Vodka and Soda

  34. October 16, 2013 at 5:01 PM

    All of your posts either make me giggle uncontrollably or want to stand up and applaud. Either way, I look like a freak show at work.

  35. October 16, 2013 at 5:23 PM

    I've always wanted to be recognized out and about as "oh my gosh! You're the girl from the blog!" That will never happen, but it's good to have dreams. Ugh, there I said it out loud.

  36. October 16, 2013 at 5:49 PM

    I love everything about this. While I definitely haven't achieved a huge level of success and I'm not certain where I want things to go, I'm not scared to say I want more readers. DUH. Unicorns fo' lyfe.

  37. October 16, 2013 at 6:21 PM

    Seriously. I loved this post! You couldn't have said it any better!

    Samantha C.

  38. October 16, 2013 at 6:27 PM

    This is so true! I've been trying to set small goals and celebrate the little successes, but it can be hard! Thanks for posting! Xo - Morgan

  39. October 16, 2013 at 6:55 PM

    I love this! I have the same goals for my blog that I just started. I like to use it as a motivator to stay inspired about life and doing fun things :-) I love that your passion for it has made you even more passionate!!

  40. October 16, 2013 at 6:59 PM

    Go girl go. And uh, you're a household name in my house. John knows who 'the girl with the yoga pants blog' is. So there's that.

  41. October 16, 2013 at 7:34 PM

    Love this post and love you! Looks like your blog is already doing big things too! ;)

  42. October 16, 2013 at 8:12 PM

    I've found my voice and, most of all, myself through this blog and that right there fuels my fire to continue trying to grow and make it as successful as I'm humanly capable of.

    PREACH! That put a huge smile on my face!

  43. October 16, 2013 at 11:14 PM

    You are a success! And very loved! Just keep going!

  44. October 16, 2013 at 11:55 PM

    I totally feel you on this .. when I first started blogging, it was just a way for me to keep tabs on my own life but then I realized through seeing other people that it's possible to be successful while doing something I love (even if it's just blogging) so I too hope to do great things someday ! ... I personally love your blog and wish you the best ... you're always so honest and pure and I know that it's something your readers appreciate it. There aren't too many bloggers out there like you !

  45. October 17, 2013 at 12:12 AM

    Not to blow smoke up your ass.. but your blog is by far the most popular of all of the ones I read. You have the most followers, the most comments..! I think you have definitely succeeded. But there's nothing wrong with wanting MORE! Go for it- unicorn and all! ;)

  46. October 17, 2013 at 1:03 AM

    How ironic that I come here today, I finally decide to stalk Erin's BFF, because she's always saying you're the shit, and turns out you totally are blogger famous, indeed. I think if you aspire to have a successful blog you should go for it, profit from telling your story? Absoeffingloutely. Publishing deals. income. free shit. I mean, go for it.

    I'm comfortable with my subtle little blog life. I don't want to be big, but the big wigs sure have it made. My friend Mandi, who I met before her blog Vintagerevivals took over the DIY world.. has given me a huge insight into it's glorious madness. So best wishes.. Erin's BFF, on taking over the blogging world.

  47. October 17, 2013 at 7:31 AM

    Blogs are incredibly amazing things and it inspires me that once upon a time this blog started up as 'nothing' (for lack of better wording) just like all of ours did. And look where you are today. I believe you already are a household name ;)
    Its a great thing to be able to make people laugh - and you do it so well.. yet you also know exactly how and when to be serious and leave us with something on a different level too. Talented and amazing - one of the favorite blogs xx

  48. October 17, 2013 at 10:22 AM

    I love this post. I only recently became a follower after finding it randomly one day, but I love it and have zero doubt you'll be a great success! I feel the same way with my blog - I kind of started it as 'well, I'll throw this out and see what happens" - and it's odd how you get very invested in it. There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting it to succeed! Why put so much time & energy into anything you don't want to do well at the end of the day! Best of luck to you!

  49. October 17, 2013 at 10:46 AM

    Yup right there with you, even though blogging about blogging is total inception and my mind is blown writing this.


  50. October 17, 2013 at 1:24 PM

    This is why you are one of my favorites and you're definitely a household name in my household :)

  51. October 19, 2013 at 10:52 PM

    I live in the midwest, and my bestie and I try to get "fireballed" like the girl who wears yoga pants to work... In my book, that means you're a household name!


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