It's Friday and I'm extraordinarily happy about this today. This week has draaaaagged, am I right? No big weekend plans for this girl but I'm not complaining, I'm hoping to get some productive things done around the house... stay tuned on that one.
Usually I spend my Friday's here writing letters and linking up, you know, doing the new blogger thing - getting my name out there... but today that's not going to be the case. Today I'm going to layout a little diddy on friendship. Somewhat a "follow up" post to Kristen's post from earlier this week.
In my eyes, friendship is a two-way street. Both sides should give and both sides should put in equal efforts. I'm putting emphasis on the word "should" because it seems that those things are easily forgotten these days.
They say, "you get what you give".
Well, I think that's bullshit, quite honestly. There have been multiple times in my life where I've given nothing but sincere friendship and support and have gotten nothing but the shit end of the stick back. Not just me, I've seen it happen to some of my friends, as well. Most recently though, it's been me.
If someone has been there for you through your worst, you need to be there for them. Period, end. That's being a true friend. How hard is it to be there?! I'm talking emotionally and physically. It's not too much to ask if the other person has been, and is always, there. Not to mention, isn't that the base of all relationships?
Friendship is an equal road and I think that's something that gets forgotten a lot. In my honest opinion, people get lazy. Don't get lazy on the people who matter the most. Sometimes we all need to pick up the phone instead of texting. We need to get off our lazy butts and extend ourselves. If there's something that really, truly means something to your friend, whether you think it's significant or not, support it! Really though it isn't that hard. Yes, you may actually have to get off of your ass and do something that isn't on the top of your list of things to do, but guess what? That gesture could mean a lot to that friend who has always been there for you.
Relationships don't grow from selfishness. They just don't. Sometimes you actually have to put others first, people. I know, so crazy, right? Not to sound all mom jeans on you guys but, seriously, put yourself in the other person's shoes. If it would hurt your feelings, chances are it will hurt the other person's feelings. If you expect someone else to live up to certain expectations in a friendship, you need to practice what you preach.
Obviously, I'm preaching my ass off today for a reason. Yes, I'm hurt from a situation that deals with what this post is formed around and yes, a long term friendship was terminated because of it. Mostly, I just want to remind us all that sometimes we have to put others before ourselves. Not always but sometimes. I just think it's important to remember that the people we're lucky enough to call "friends" help us be who we are in this life and we need to be there for them.
If you haven't reached your hand out to your friends lately, go ahead and let them know you care today. I promise, even the smallest gestures can mean the world.
With that I'm off to count down to 4 o'clock happy hour. Happy Friday, loves.